About Sarab
I grew up home by 7. Now I help people go home free.
I'm Sarab Matharu, founder of Nexara Constellations. I spent 13 years on the other side of this work before I ever held a session.
My story, in five objects
40 missed calls and a cushion
When I was in school, my mom would randomly ask me, “Are you going to go all alone, all by yourself?” I came from a family which was very strict, and going out was almost seen as something threatening.
My grandmother would always make sure everybody came home. That looked like me going out with friends, being supposed to come back by 7 p.m., and having 40 missed calls by 6 p.m.
I wasn't allowed to go on the school trip to Manali that I really wanted to go to. Everyone went, but of course I was the only one who didn't, because that was not something that people in our house did. We were just not allowed to leave. We had to come back before it was night.
Just because I'm the curious person I am, when I was just 18 years old, I ended up in a room where a constellation was happening. That experience completely blew my mind.
All I remember is that I was holding a cushion in my hand, and I passed it back to a lady.
Going back to the constellation, that cushion represented the anxiety, the fear of the world, and the worries that my grandmother carried, that maybe she was also passed down.
After I freed myself, my mom freed herself. My mom is from Delhi, and in those 20 years, she had never stepped outside, even in Mumbai, alone at all by herself. Now she has started to take flights by herself, and has been on a solo retreat.
And the most shocking thing of all is I've been on many, many solo trips myself. I was the first one to go to Abu Dhabi all by myself, for four months. So I broke that pattern. And my mom, she was the one to encourage me to go to China, because at one point I got super scared if I could do it or not.
- BOM → AUH4 MONTHS · SOLO
- MOM · SOLO FLIGHTFIRST ONE
- → CHINAMOM SAID GO
It might just have felt like one tiny, tiny action in the moment, and I didn't think much of it.
But now when I look back, it's a completely different life that I'm living.
From that cushion to here
- 13
- years in constellation work
- 40+
- constellations of my own
- 300+
- sessions guided
- 6
- nationalities
What shaped the way I work
Vipassana
Taught me to sit with what's really there, without flinching.
QiGong and yoga
Taught me how energy moves through the body, and how to work with it.
Shaolin martial arts
Taught me discipline, presence and speed.
How I work with you
Direct. I'll tell you what I see, kindly and clearly.
Fast. I'd rather you change in four months than talk about it for four years.
Warm. Nothing you bring is too much.
Why Nexara. Nexus, the point where everything connects. Ara, lighting the pathway. Finding where you're tied to your family system, and lighting the way forward from there.
What's your cushion?
If you've done all the work and still feel the weight of home, let's find it together.
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